Eight Rules For Better Networking

The biggest mistake job seekers generally make when it comes to networking is simply failing to recognize the true breadth of the network they have at their disposal. In contrast, some other job seekers have started to appreciate the network they have cultivated, and have started to work it, but are not getting the kind of results a lot of experts promise when they sing the praises of networking.

No big surprise – there are some unread rules for optimal networking. How well you work your network will determine how fruitful your efforts are, how well you are received when you call to setup meetings, and how easily you expand your network.

Let's look at eight rules for job seekers to optimize their networking efforts.

  1. Do not mistake networking meetings for job interviews. When you speak to people currently in your network, or those you're trying to add, make sure you do not insist that you're soliciting job opportunities. In fact, reassure the people you talk to that you are not asking them for a job. Chances are, when you call to try to setup networking meetings, you will hear "sorry, we are not hiring." Here's an appropriate response: "Great. I understand you guys have a very stable work. I'd like to find out more about that that is; I hope to learn something that will help me in my job search." Once you end up sitting across from them, do not change gears and ask for a job.
  2. Drop names (carefully) when reaching out to referrals. If your neighbor Sarah Smith reiterates you an old colleague, John Public, the first words out of your mouth when you call James should be "Sara Smith suggested I give you call." Furthermore, when Sara originally claimed you talk to John, you should have asked her if she'd be willing to call him first and let him know you'd be calling. To use sales parlance, this turns a "cold call" into a "warm call."
  3. Provide a positive reason to meet with people. Let's continue the preceding example. When Sara suggests you talk to John, ask her why. Let's say her answer is "he knows everyone in town." When you call John, say something like "Sara Smith told me that you are a master of networking, and I'm hiring you can share some ideas about how I can use networking in my job search."
  4. Establish and respect boundaries for a networking meeting. Let's say you telephoned John and requested "15 minutes to discuss what you know about the latest technology opportunities for new grads." After 15 minutes, you should thank him for his time and be prepared to leave. He may invite you to stay and continue talking – but it's his call.
  5. Do not leave without another referral. If you sold cutlery, encyclopedias or vacuums door to door in high school, you're familiar with this technique. End each networking meeting by asking for recommendations regarding who else you can talk to. Once again, you may run into objections such as "I do not know anyone who's hiring." A good way around this is "I'd like to talk to anyone you can think of, for any reason. I'm in information-gathering mode." Again, once you get referrals, ask if the person offering them is willing to make a call on your behalf, to mention that you will be calling.
  6. Send a thank you note after a networking meeting. When a successful business person takes 15 minutes or more out of their time, and hopefully shares 1-2 referrals with you, they have done you a priceless favor. Acknowledge it with a thank you card.
  7. Reciprocate. Networking works because a lot of successful business people give their time away to strangers, for no immediate gain of their own. Someday, after networking has led you to new employment opportunities, your phone may ring. When a nervous stranger tentatively requests 15 minutes of your time, make it a priority.
  8. Integrate online job searching with networking. Surfing job web sites is a great way to educate yourself about the types of opportunities available, who's hiring, etc. As you view postings, you may remember that people in your network – friends, ex coworkers, etc. – work for the employers in question. Reaching out to these people for an introduction can be a very effective way of standing out from the other candidates who apply.

There must be a reason that all career coaches agree networking is the golden path to the best job opportunities. It's not an easy path, it is not a quick path. But it can grant you VIP status during meetings (especially useful when it turns out they have opportunities for which you are well qualified) and it can lead you to the 80% of jobs which experts say go unadvertised.

So, to paraphrase a popular program, networking "works if you work it." And it works best if you follow the precedent rules and recommendations.

Top Five Comfies Airlines

Being someone who travels a lot, I've had my share of bad planes. It's not uncommon to step out of a long flight with your legs still half-asleep, praying to be stretched! People I know even say that a more expensive ticket is fine as long as the plane had enough legroom.

Another measure of comfortable I use is entertainment. I bring a book along to help pass the time, but I still check out the in-flight shows. More work-oriented friends of mine who carry laptops have internet access on the top of their list. I suppose I can also use that to browse the net, too.

The plane's amenities are also something to think about. I like spacious toilets since I'd rather not suffocate (in more ways than one) when using the can. I sleep while en route sometimes, so having nice pillows and blankets help me sleep soundly, as well as a nice, comfortable chair. Decent food is a must, since I've eaten enough on-board tasteless meals to last a lifetime. Friendly airline staff is also a big plus. I've been half-ignored by a grumpy stewardess once, and I was not even flirting with her!

So, what airlines are best for booking flights with? According to the World Airline Awards, they are the following:

1. Singapore Airlines – I've had the pleasure of flying with this airline a few times, and hearing that they are number one is not surprising at all. They've always had a good reputation among regular travelers, and for good reason. Economy class is not as cramped, business class is as good as it gets, great meals in all classes, friendly and well-trained cabin staff and a good selection of in-flight entertainment. If you have a flight with Singapore Airlines, you're guaranteed satisfaction. Your legs may not want to leave, and it's not because they're asleep!

2. Thai Airways – Yet another excellent airline! Some consider them to be Singapore Airlines' true competitor, both being based in Southeast Asia and both being considered to be some of the best in the world. Like in Singapore Airlines, you're guaranteed satisfaction with them.

3. Cathay Pacific – A consistent competitor ever since the conception of the rewards, you are sure to have a good experience with them. Although not as good as the best, it's their more than above average ratios in everything a passenger needs gives them a good edge against other airlines.

4. Qatar Airways – If you're flying first class, look no further! Qatar Airways has the best first class seats in the business, and is not a slouch in the other categories either. It's also the best airline based in the Middle East. Grab a flight with them and see what they can do for you.

5. Qantas – Another consistent performer like Cathay Pacific, it's considered to be the best airline based in Australia. It does well in many of the comfort categories, and is known to be a top choice for flights.

So what are you waiting for? If you have a trip planned, be sure that it's one of these airlines for a comfortable travel experience that will leave you smiling, inside-out!

Great Things to do With Your Leftover Thanksgiving Turkey

If you've slaved away for hours on a huge bird for Thanksgiving, there's no reason that the extra meat has to go to waste. It's inevitable-99% of the time, you'll have leftover turkey after everyone's had their fill. Although you can simply heat up the meat in the microwave, that is not very interesting or tasty. You've sent a lot of time and money cooking the perfect Thanksgiving turkey. Do not let the leftovers go to waste!

One of the tastiest things you can do with your leftover turkey is make turkey salad. This is a great way to stretch the leftover meat as well. You can use the recipe for any turkey or chicken salad recipe, with is not much more than mayonnaise and a few extra additives (it depends on your specific recipe). You can use the turkey salad in sandwiches, or on top of toast. Add some cheese, and you'll have a wonderful lunch!

Another great use for leftover turkey is potpie. You can make pot pie with whatever vegetables you have leftover from Thanksgiving as well. Although most people like to use chicken or beef, turkey holds up well in a potpie and can be delicious with the same recipe you use for chicken potpie. In fact, turkey works well in place of chicken in most recipes. You can try turkey a la king, turkey casserole, turkey and rice, and any of your other family chicken recipes.

Do not forget that you do not have to eat all of your leftovers right after thanksgiving. If you have a tone of leftovers, you can get sick of turkey rather quickly, and the heavy, rich foods associated with Thanksgiving are not always very healthy for your body. Why not spread out the leftovers all year? Thanksgiving turkey and other leftovers can be frozen in convenient packs, meaning that all you have to do when you want a taste of November is heat up the meal. Instead of freezing all of the turkey together, all of the corn together, etc, make up plates with single meals. These are great to take with you to work as lunch or to heat up for a child who does not like what you're making for dinner. Use your frozen meals in about six month if you choose this option.

And hey, no one's saying that you can not cook a larger Thanksgiving turkey on purpose! If you like the leftovers that you can make from turkey or if you want to freeze a number of extra Thanksgiving meals, try cooking a bird twice the size than you'll actually need for Thanksgiving while you're already taking the time to prepare the large meal.

At the very least, do not throw your leftover turkey away! Regulations prevent you from donating the meat to the food bank, but if you know of a need family in your area, you can offer the leftovers to them, stating that you have more than you can use before it spoils. Thanksgiving is a time of sharing the food you have with others, after all, so you can help keep in the spirit with your left Thanksgiving turkey.

Avoid Identify Theft From Obituaries

Identity theft even applies to the dead. Write your obituaries with identity theft in mind because the deceased's identity is an irresistible target for thieves. There are tips that you can follow to avoid identity theft.

Victims of identity theft

Identity theft of the dead is a deplorable topic to have to discuss, but it must be talked about to help those who may be victims of identity theft in the future. The problem is compounded by the fact that the family is grieving for the dead and being conned at the same time. It is made even worse when the Deceased had joint accounts with a partner who is still living because she or he ends up having to pay dearly for the thief's crimes. The saddest part is that the thief often gets away with the crime before he or she she is done.

Identity theft from obituaries

Con artists will scan the obituaries in their city or town and watch for valuable information that they can use to access bank accounts and personal credit. Long obituaries that give many details give these scam artists more valuable information that they can use to steal the identity of the Deceased. The Deceased does not have to worry about their credit rating, but the family is caused undue emotional stress. Sometimes the thieves want to steal the identity to avoid immigration, legal or financial problems of their own.

How you can avoid identity theft

The best way to avoid identity theft from your loved ones obituary is to take care of financial and credit issues before the obituary is published. Close accounts, and notify all creditors, banks and credit reporting agencies of the confirmed's passing. The next best thing is to limit the information on the obituary so that there is not a resume of details that list every occupation, award and detail of the person's life.

A checklist of what to do to avoid identity theft from obituaries

If you do all of these things you will ensure that your loved one will not be a victim of identity theft after he or she has passed away. It is even better if you do all of this before you publish the obituary:

  • Close accounts and credit cards.
  • Notify Equifax, Trans Union and Experian of the denied's passing.
  • Contact Social Security and have them deactivate the social security number of the Deceased.

What to do if you suspect identity theft

If you've already published the obituary and you notice unusual activity on the discontinued accounts, you can assume there is some sort of identity theft and so you must do the following:

  • Notify the police immediately.
  • Contact your bank and freeze accounts.
  • Contact credit-reporting agencies.

The police and credit reporting agencies will have more suggestions for you to keep you safe.

Writing obituaries need not be a daunting task, especially if you have all your financial affairs in order. If you've taken all the steps to avoid identity theft from obituaries, you can rest assured that your obituary can be as long or as short as you would like it to be.

RV Camping – Choosing a Camping Location

Ever thought about getting away from your day-to-day grind and go camp out in nature somewhere? Camping is a very popular recreational activity especially during the holidays. One of the main ways people across the country go camping is by using recreational vehicles (RV’s). RV camping is a fun experience and much more comfortable.

When you go RV camping you have the ability to travel anywhere you would like to go when you want to. You do not have to find some motel on the road and spend more money than they are worth. In an RV you can sleep onboard, cook, and even go to the bathroom, all onboard. RV camping is not your parents’ way to go camping. There are many options for places to go RV camping but choosing a camping area is not as simple as it sounds.

One of the first things you will need to do is to find out if the area is accessible by the RV. You may have to park the RV and walk to the camping area. Choose a location that is near to your RV. It is also good to find out about the camping site before you set out RV camping. You can check on the location of the site and how easy or difficult it may be to get there.

Although it may be hard to tell from pictures, the view is another important consideration. When you go RV camping part of the whole experience is the view because it adds to the whole enjoyment of camping.

An important thing to think about is whether or not there is access to clean water. You may have to carry water with you to the site. Also if you intend to make a campfire you will want to choose a location that has access to firewood, preferably dead wood.

One of the key things to be weary of are areas that are uncharted. You should stay away from those areas because you will not know what to expect. You certainly do not want to find yourself camping on a steep hillside or sleeping with the bears. If you choose to go RV camping in an unknown area, be sure to check the site out before you go so you have some idea as to what to expect.

Some of the better places to go RV camping are in the state parks and national forests. You must keep in mind the fact that most of these areas are protected areas, so you would want to do your checks with your local park administrators to find out what the rules are for camping in those areas.

When you go RV camping you will only be as good as the RV you are in. So, it is very important that you choose an RV that will serve your needs. There are many varieties of RV’s for you to choose from. Many of them have some of the basic amenities of home such as cooking and water storage.

Cheap Summer Vacations

People, as a whole, need a break. Traveling is one of the favorite ways to unwind and relax. One of the busiest and most popular times to travel is during the summer months, when the children and the college students (and even some adults) get their biggest break. Good spots to travel to and explore are historic landmarks, beaches, water theme parks and/or exotic locales.

Think you can’t afford a nice weekend getaway or a nice dream vacation? Think again. If you know what you really want in a vacation and have good planning, you can have a summer adventure that won’t ruin your budget. If you know how and where to look, travel prices, according to some experts, can be pretty economical.

Some predictable summer vacations have been cruises. Some popular cruise destinations have been to the Caribbean, Mexico and Europe, Florida and Las Vegas. One growing trend is that people tend to want to travel closer to home and less overseas. There is also a rise in people booking their vacations at the last minute, making last-minute bargains harder and harder to find. More and more people can find the best deals at the best times thanks to the Internet. And more and more people are thinking smart and ahead by scheduling vacations in advance. It’s not unreasonable to start planning for a trip or cruise a year ahead. If going through a travel agency to book your vacation or cruise, many travel agencies have the option to pay for your vacation or cruise by monthly payments instead of a lump sum.

Consider taking a trip within the United States and make it a road trip at that. There are bed and breakfasts, camping resorts and hotels with great rates that can help you explore your own fantastic country. It is surprising, but many people call hotels for reservations and ask for a rate for a specific date and don’t get the lowest rate. The rate that is given is usually not the lowest rate. You must ask specifically for the lowest rate in order to get it. Being flexible is important when scheduling vacations and cruises. If the rate for your specific travel date is not available, having a second set of dates and even a third set can help people get the discounted rate they want. One hotel that you want to stay at may not have a room available. That hotel may be partnered with another hotel in the same area that can give you a room instead. This is where being flexible comes in handy.

Before you get there, find out as much as you can about your travel destination. If you have pets and children, find a place where they can be accommodated. An all night party place may not be the best spot if want a quiet place for two. This is where the Internet can come in handy. The Internet is a great tool to create the perfect vacation for you and your love ones.

Cyber ​​Bullying – The High-Tech Way to Harass

Remember the good old days when bullies were easy to identify? There were your typical types: the kid hanging out near the cafeteria waiting to steal your lunch money or the cool kids smoking in the bathroom waiting to give you a swirly when you walked in. It's no surprise that with the dawn of the new age (the age of technology) bullying has a new face, or lack thereof. Cyber ​​bullying has become the hip new way to torture others. No matter where you go, what you do, your bully follows you. The worst part? You may never find out who your bully actually is.

Cyber ​​bullying is defined as being cruel to others by sending or posting harmful material using the Internet or any other electronic device (Blackberry, cell phone etc ..). Cyber ​​bullying differs from traditional bullying because with the use of modern technologies bullies can harass their targets 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The face of your bully may never be known because bullies are able to remain anonymous online. Also, lack of parental monitoring over modern technologies makes it tricky for bullies to be caught. There are many obstacles in stopping cyber bullies namely: the lack of laws and freedom of speech guaranteed by the First Amendment. This article will identify the types of speech that are not protected and can lead to prosecution.

Instead of a few kids at school harassing their favorite targets in the halls or the cafeteria cyber bullying allows bullies to post nasty messages all the time. These tormentors can also create websites about their goals for the world to see online. With the use of cell phones and computers kids can be connected anytime, anywhere, which also means their editors have the unique ability to follow them everywhere they go. Sixteen-year-old "Shelia" describes being at her grandmother's house for the weekend and upon logging onto her AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) account. She was immediately flooded with vulgar messages accusing her of sleeping with boys she did not even know.

Cyber ​​bullying is often described as a 'cowardly' form of bullying because the tormentor can remain anonymous online. Online the wimpiest kid can become the biggest bully because there are no consequences for their actions. These high tech harassers believe that they can not be held accountable for the things that they post online because online messages are often difficult to trace. Many bullies are unwilling to accept punishment even when they are found out, claiming that it was not them and hiding behind the possibility that someone else could have logged in under their screen name.

The anonymity of online activity allows people to feel uninhibited that causing many people to act in ways they never would face to face. A 2007 survey conducted by Media Awareness Network found that 60% of students aged 13-18 had pretended to be someone else online. Of the students who pretended to be someone that they were not, 17% of them did so because they could say things and get away with it.

Cyber ​​bullying is unique because unlike traditional bullying that would have to wait until a parent was not present to witness the attack. Cyber ​​bullying can be done in private. Computers are often in teens' rooms, text messages can be sent via cell phone faster than a blink of an eye. It's nearly impossible to monitor all the technology available to teenagers.

The two main obstacles in stopping cyber bullying are lack of laws and the delicate balance between free speech and harassment. Currently there are no laws against cyber bullying. Schools have policies on bullying that encompasses written or verbal harassment but only during school hours. Many schools are hesitant to pass policies on cyber bullying because it could have been viewed as impinging on student's First Amendment rights. In this case, the First Amendment is a double-edged sword- it protects speech but it limits school's ability to place restrictions on "free" speech.

However, there are several types of speech that are not protected under the first amendment. The following types of speech can lead to arrest and prosecution.

* Engaging in Coercion – Trying to talk someone into something that they do not want to do.

* Threats – Sending someone messages threatening to do harm to them.

* Hate Crimes – Based on race, ethnicity, religion or gender orientation.

* Creating or Sending Someone Sexually Explicit Material or Messages – this includes text, pictures and graphics.

* Sexual Exploitation – Taking a photo of someone where privacy is expected (in a bathroom, locker room etc ..)

Give Yourself Plenty of Time to Explore Albany and Surrounds

Originally settled by convicts and used as a military base, Albany was first settled in 1827, making it the oldest city in Western Australia. Back in the early 19th century, the French had their eye on Western Australia. Since what is now known as Albany had the largest natural harbor in that region of the country, it was felt that it needed protecting.

Today, Albany’s primary industry is tourism. The city’s rich and colourful history remains on display in its architecture and historical sites. This, combined with the area’s natural beauty makes Albany one of Western Australia’s premier tourist destinations.

One of the best ways to see many of the best of the more than 50 historical sites in Albany is to take the Amity Trail. The thirty minute tour of the Amity Trail is an ideal way to get to know the city. Also not to be missed is the replica of the Brig Amity, the ship that brought the first settlers and convicts into Albany.

The last whaling ships withdrew from Albany in 1979, but “whaling” in the form of whale watching is still a big part of Albany’s attraction. You can often easily spot whales from the shore, but for a more exciting and close-up view of magnificent Southern Right and Humpback whales, you will want to take a whale watching cruise. While you’re at it, you will want to visit Whale World, a fascinating exhibit located at the site of Australia’s last whaling station.

Albany’s rugged coastline and sheltered white sand beaches make it a favorite with holiday makers in landlocked Perth. The Gap, a narrow, rectangular inlet flanked by 20 foot cliffs is a dizzying experience, especially when big waves sweep in and crash against the rocks. The nearby Natural Bridge is also an amazing sight. Another coastal attraction you won’t want to miss is the ruins of the Old Forts Lighthouse on King Point.

One of the more popular scenic walks in Albany is the Middleton Beach Boardwalk. It’s not a long walk, only around 2 miles (3km), but makes you feel like you have immersed yourself in nature. More adventurous explorers head for the rugged coastline in Torndirrup National Park.

Long before the European settlers arrived in the Albany area, it was home to indigenous Australians, who called the area Kinjarling or “place of water.” This was a good name for the region, because rainfall is high throughout the winter. During the peak summer holiday season, there is just enough rain to freshen the air keep the landscape green and verdant.

Now that tourism has become Albany’s major industry, there is no shortage of Albany accommodations to choose from. They run the gamut from comfortable budget accommodations to luxurious resorts. Albany’s permanent population is less than 30,000, making it an ideal place to stay. Everything is at your fingertips, but the city has a wide-open, spacious feel. To get the most out of your vacation in Albany, plan on staying awhile. There is just too much you will want to see to try to cram it all in in a day or two.

Cancun Mexico Vacations – A Great Place To Get Away

Mexico is home to some of the most fascinating and beautiful beaches in the world. Aside from that, it is also popular for its activities and celebrations that reflect the abundance of Mexican culture. One of the most popular ways to experience this firsthand is with Cancun Mexico vacations. Yes, there are other vacation sites in Mexico such as Acapulco, Huatulco, Isla Mujeres, Ixtapa, Cozumel, etc, but there is something unique and special about Cancun, Mexico.

Cancun is one of the most favorite tourist destinations in Mexico for many different reasons. It is a perfect place for people who are active and fun loving. Thousands of vacationers take Cancun Mexico vacations every year because it is so popular with its nightlife, water adventure sports like scuba diving, snorkeling and parasailing, discos, entertainment bars, shopping malls, and others. The place is almost like a one stop shop as it offers a remarkably wide variety of options to the visitors.

An interesting fact about Cancun is that in the past it used to be just a deserted place. With time, we can’t really tell what happens next.

A vacation to Cancun takes the visitor to some of the most popular places to see. A typical Cancun tour allows you to witness and experience Paradise Island, the well known dancing dolphins in the turquoise blue Caribbean, the Atlantis Submarine, and of course the Mayan ruins. Tours to ecological parks, jungles, or natural reserves are also included to widen the knowledge of the visitors and at the same time to leave them enthralled by these sights and sites.

While it is true that there are thousands of places to go and enjoy some leisure time away from it all, Cancun Mexico vacations are a good idea to give some serious consideration to. With everything the area has to offer you can be assured of a great time.

Communication Problems In Relationships: 3 Ways to Overcome Communication Problems in Relationships

Communication problems in relationships are a primary cause of failed marriages, broken hearts and ruined dreams. To guarantee that your relationship does not crash and burn as a result of these problems, you need to develop good communication skills in relationships. This is the first step on the pathway to create blissful relationships. Good communication in romantic relationships is based on 3 core skills or communication practices which are:

1. Clarity

Think you've explained yourself clearly? Think again. Double check. Make sure that your significant other really does understand what you want. Try recording conversations that you have with your lover or with friends and then transcribe the recording. When you see what's written down, you'll understand why we have such communication problems in relationships. We are so lazy with our thinking and explanations. We leave sentences half-finished and we expect our partners to finish the sentence for us. Often they do. But do not be surprised if sometimes they end it differently than you would have done. You say, 'Honey, would you take the trash out …?' (meaning tonight before the garbage truck comes). He thinks, 'Yeah, I'll take the trash out tomorrow sometime.' Unless you are married to a super psychic, do not expect your partner to be a mind reader. Get clarity in your thinking and words. And of course, it works both ways. Make sure to check that you are clearly understanding what your partner is communicating and asking for.

2. Specificity

Success gurus affirm what the army has known for a long time, that minds thrive on clear specific orders. It's no different in relationships. If you have specific needs, you need to communicate those specific needs to your partner. It's no good you say, 'I want you to take me somewhere nice this weekend,' and then complaining when he leads you into Dunkin 'Donuts. It will help big time if you can say instead, 'I really want to get away this weekend just the two of us so we can reconnect in an intimate way. Let's go up to Lake Whatever on Friday night, and book into that sweet little motel, The Love Inn, on Highway 95. We'll take a bottle of champagne, order pizza, and give each other exotic massages by candle light. ' The clearer and more specific you are in expressing your thoughts, feelings and desires, the less room there is for any communication problems in relationships.

3. Honesty

Honesty is not a blunt instrument that you use to beat your partner over the head with. Honesty in relationship communication involves first being honest with yourself. This requires self-knowledge … and self-knowledge comes from non-judgmental observation of the way you think and act. By watching your mind, your emotions, like a passive witness sat in the back of a movie theater watching the movie of your daily life, you will develop greater perspective. From this greater perspective you can be truly honest with yourself. From this greater self-understanding, you will understand others better too. And you will be able to communicate honestly and kindly. Honesty need always to be tempered by kindness and love for relationships to thrive. There are ways of being honest without causing pain to others. This kind of honesty will end many of the communication problems in relations.